Gladysio!=)

From left to right: Gavin, Melissa, Me, Catherine, Gladys, Jemimah, Chee Xiung and Leandre.

Hmm...Went out for dinner wif the 7 cute friends last night at Causeway Bay Restaurant, somewhere near to The Pumpkin....

Had a great time, i mean EXCELLENT~

Cant stand all the laughters tat we had and the chit-chatting which eventually made us the center of the crowd and the attention of the workers there...

This group of friends somehow, except melissa and gavin, i seldom or mayb a lil bit less than OFTEN would i play wif.... Not to say that they're not funny o wad, but instead they're really crazy when they group together....especially wif xiung and melissa and jem there...plus, Gladys's pitchy laughs.... However, in class, i just dont have the time to mix in...hahaXD glad that the week before i left, i can have so much joy wif them...

Well, skip all the gossips and info that we've shared (I WONT TELL U WAD WE'VE SAID..wakakaXD), i drank 2 glasses of ice blended, SOLO!!

1. Mocca ice blended

2. Cappucino ice blended

They taste nice...and after much comparison, i realised that Causeway Bay has the cheapest o perhaps the most reasonable price for ice blended... RM6.50, while the other places have them around RM 11.50.

Well, they taste yummy wif my salted-fish-fried rice.

But too much caffeine is absolutely NO-GOOD to our health *reminder*

Know wad? "Thanks" to these ice blended that i discovered that my health condition doesnt allow me to take caffeine that much, or perhaps no coffee!!

I reached home around 10pm, then my heart started to pound so fast....extremely fast then followed by difficulty in breathing....

The condition went on till 4am....Imagine me in front of the computer, dizzy, cant breathe, then heart pumping at the highest rate....

Owh~ for once, i thought i'm gonna die from heart attack....

Of course late at that time, my parents are fast asleep, so i din wake them up, thinking it will b better after some time....

Well, it gets okay after i slowly going to sleep at 4am...

Then this morning i told papa bout wad i'd gone through last night and he shook his head, saying, " U're just like me....I cant take coffee too... Inherited le... Better dun drink coffee next time ya~"

There it goes... Bubai to my MOCCA and CAPPUCINO...

Hey!! Somehow, i havent had a try on black coffee... Ish~

Hmm...No wonder when i'm tired o sleepy during exam week, mum never offer to pour me a cup of coffee...

Wondering y am i the weakest among the "S.H.E" in my house?

From birth till now, i'm the one wif the thickest list of health treatment, ranging from asthma, allergic rhinitis, contact dermatitis till now, heart attack??? phew~ how "lucky" am i...

But not in a sarcastic way, these are all curable through medicine and treatment... Thanks God!!

Went back to school tis morning, SMK Green Road is still the same without Jocelynn Tian there (hahaXD thought my leaving will change something?) carpark in front of the hall is still filled wif teachers' cars...and noticed how much a teacher earns to let them have these good cars?? hehe>.<

Fishes are still alive in the pond...except that i din manage to capture a shot on the waterlilies...

Well, not to mention that our toilets are still as "colourful and interesting" as always... Never get bored while u're doing your "business"... HahaXD enjoy reading~ a "gossiping notice board", i named it....

Erm, having busy week starting from tomorrow.

Big boom in Everise, so gonna have shopping wif mum to buy my necessities for college.... Need new luggage and a real big one too....

Then dinner wif Keryn, Lester, East, Jenny, Ivelyn and Chee Xiung as planned on Monday night at Sharing Planet.. Hope can take lotsa nice photos to be put into my cute photo album...

The next day, which is Tuesday, gonna go out whole day wif my 8sis gang....going kbox and some movie perhaps...

Friday night, the day before my morning flight on Saturday, i hope that i can go for dinner wif wei yin, khai shin, jeremy and primary schoolmates cos i'm expecting for Joel's arrival from miri that night around 8pm....He'll b joining us...We'd had many 3 gatherings without him...so before i go, hope he can join us...

So, basically, i'm free on wednesday and thursday for now.... Will have packing on these two days then if noone is dating me out...haha....XD

Miss u guys... Wanna go out wif Gladysio gang again... wootx wootx

Oh ya!! Haven go out wif janice and yian ping gang gok leh...

-Mogu-

回到古晋

回到自己再熟悉不过的家, 却有种失落感.

爸多了很多白头发, 妈咪依旧忙碌着,稍嫌忙碌的她,也开始老了...

我不觉心疼...

几天后,我就要离开他们. 诺大的房子只剩下两老,我知道他们一定很寂寞...

我很想念妈咪的手艺, 在斯哩阿曼待了3星期,回来,就是餐餐吃普通的家常便饭,只要是妈咪煮的,我都觉得值得....以后,肯定吃不到这熟悉的味道了...

这几天的沉淀,让我真的撤撤底底地放下一切了...

没有时间让我分心....我还有妈咪的期望要履行...

我还有自己的愿望要实行...

计划当然永远赶不上变化, 但是我选择回到几个月前的自己, 什么也没发生,收拾心情, 不要改变, 重新开始...

森美兰将是我重新开始的第一站...

很多表格要填, 更别说是和朋友聚会了, 连到学校的时间也没有...

连续两天的疲劳轰炸, 外加习惯性的[更换住所不适症], 我又头痛了...

和朋友联系了下,今晚终于可以和ahsa 去喝茶了...

许久不见, 以后会好久不见的朋友, 希望真的都还能记得彼此...

我要学会照顾自己, 又是一门必须从头开始的功课....

曾经答应某人要好好照顾自己, 现在我会这么做, 但是不是为了他,而是为自己,为在乎我的朋友.... 毕竟, 不再在乎自己的人, 我没必要这么在意了, 对吧?

我真的不想再被影响, 既然不愿意说话, 那么我也没必要自取其辱.

不在乎了...一再的言语伤害, 已经让我看到真正的自己, 了解自己的感觉....在这里也谢谢你....

一个看请自己的经验, 我又成长了....

更明白自己什么...

慢慢收拾自己的衣服, 鞋子, 书本, 我知道接下来的旅途很艰难, 但是我还有朋友们可以诉苦...

请容我自私的要求你们----一直记得田丽洁是你们的朋友哦...

-蘑菇-

见证分享

主的大爱感动了我。
昨天，就像我与主立下的约，我到新恩堂的青少团契，作了我人生的第一个见证分享。
其实，本来就不是很紧张，心里只是单纯的想把我对主的爱传达给大家知道，让大家也可以感受主在我生命里做了何等大的工，赐给我何等尊贵的恩典。

“大家晚上好，主里平安。恩，我是田丽洁。感谢主让我今天可以站在这里为主作见证。我是来自一个非信徒的家庭。很多人都会好奇我怎么会从一个佛教徒变成基督徒的。
其实，身为一个学生，我也常常会面对很多压力。像父母对自己的期望，外界的高标准，成绩的压力等。。。还没信主前，我常常会为了成绩而回家哭得很惨。 父母对自己的期望也不在话下。小学时，还记得，若有一年没拿第一名，爸爸就会问，你是不是不会？做么没有第一名的？看太多电视拉！ 成绩退步了。。。
那对我来说真的是一种压力。。。
我觉得读书很辛苦。我感觉自己去学校，好像是为了成绩而读书，而不是为了喜欢读书才读书的。读书应该是一种很好玩的东西，但对我来说确实一种残忍的枷锁，一种高标准的施压， 以及让我没有自由的绳索。
FORM3 时，我真的压力很大，因为爸爸常说，你要考很好的成绩才能进好班，那个谁谁谁（我表姐）都拿STRAIGHT A， 你也要努力。
在很大的压力下，每天，我只要一读书，就开始在哭。觉得读书真的很累，但是又不能放弃。
有一晚，撒旦迁入我的心灵，我竟然有了自杀的念头。我打电话给大姐，那时已经是基督徒的大姐告诉我一句话{不要害怕。你的生命是上帝赐给你的，你应该为了上帝而活。 祷告，交托给上帝吧。} 就因为一句[祷告，交托]， 我开始做祷告。
不知怎样祷告的我，只是简单的请求上帝赐给我力量，让我不要害怕。
我发现，从那刻开始，上帝好像真的听到我的祷告，赐予我所需要的一切，自己引领我。。。
我开始到教堂。我的第一间教堂就是晋道堂。
每个星期，我的盼望都在于星期六和日，因为我可以参加团契和主日崇拜。
每当我脆弱时，我总觉得教堂才是真正能让我发泄的地方。
只要我遇到问题，团契时，当没有人在注意我时，我都会哭得很伤心。特别是当大家在唱[祷告]`[深触我心]等。。。我都觉得我的生命，若没遇上上帝，我将会是个很悲哀的人，每天活在自我怜悯里，觉得自己很可怜等。。。
有时，我还会在圣堂里，跪在大十字架前，哭。就什么也不想，只是崩溃的哭。哭完之后，我突然觉得，其实，那些也不是什么大问题。耶稣基督都为了我们这些罪人被钉死在十字架上，基督无怨无悔的付出，我的问题还能比这还严重吗？
认识主前，我认为人生真的很没意义。 我不知道自己的目标在哪。那是一种茫然。
眼里看到的东西都是坏的一面，所以在别人面前，我都会表现的很乐观，一种极度反差的乐观。
我内心曾经有很多的讨厌。
我觉得父母为什么看到我，对我的标准永远只是靠好成绩，而二姐就可以无忧无虑的上课? 难道若今天我的成绩不好，他们就不会爱我了。与我的话题永远只是读书，成绩。读书，补习。读书，某某拿第几名，赢你还是输你？我觉得他们会爱我，只是因为我的成绩，若今天我不厉害读书，那么，他们就不爱我了。。。我是这么想的。
对于亲戚，有些，我甚至很恨！因为他们的那张嘴脸。 只要我成绩稍微跌了几名，他们就会开始“诶，不是读书很聪明的昧？做么这次跌到酱厉害？你没有读书哈？（我只是默默的笑，心里觉得，像你这种人，只会在旁边煽风点火。）偏偏爸爸又很听信他们的话，就会生气的说：“你看，连某某都说你的成绩跌啊。。还不要好好读书。”
至于朋友嘛，我也曾经不喜欢自己的朋友。或许是被爸爸灌输多了。有时，我觉得自己交的朋友都是先认识我的成绩，才认识我。明白我的意思吗？
就是，常会被介绍“她是那个读书很厉害的田丽洁。” 而不是“她是田丽洁。我的同班同学。”
我不喜欢这样子。因为往往，留下的知识一脸尴尬。我也不知如何回应。
有时，我也觉得自己被利用。好像朋友和我做朋友只是为了抄那所谓“很厉害的功课”，为了考试时可以拿我考卷来抄，为了做PROJECT时，可以不用作，我会议个人包完，还有很多很多目的。
不是我不推辞，而是我很会看人脸色做事。 我觉得若我说不，或许他们会生气，甚至，我不希望有人说“读书厉害就嚣张啦！不要帮就不要啦！”我不是这种人。我很喜欢帮忙，可是我也会累，我也希望自己是因为我会是个好朋友而你们和我做朋友，不是为了那么多目的才认识我。
我很奇怪，我喜欢自己主动帮助其他人，那样让我很开心，但是我不喜欢一个人过分的要求我帮助他们，那样会让我觉得他们又目的。
这就是我还没认识主之前的样子。疑心病重，心里有恨。
认识主后，我开始抛开这些猜疑，我开始接受批评，对于我不喜欢听的，我开始把它当成笑话。
对于我不喜欢的人，我开始在他们身上找优点来喜欢他们。
对于不喜欢我的人，我会想办法让他们喜欢我。
对于怎样都不喜欢我，而自己有不爱惜自己的，我真的会放弃不要让自己去自取其辱。让他们继续讨厌。
信主的这3年，我真的很快乐。考试虽然会担心，但是，我都是为了荣耀主的名而努力着。
这3年，世界变得很美。
今天要做见证也是因为我感谢主让我有好口才和勇气。
本来我也很想读神学，但是基于现实问题，我也希望自己能行主耶稣基督所行的事，用主的一生来爱他的儿女们。
昨天我很开心，我收到了入学通知书。
我希望我的未来，可以在事业上荣耀主。
我希望向耶稣一样，帮助病苦的人，我一定会努力当个好医生（牙医）。
在事业上也能尽基督徒的本分---宣教。
所以，大家在主的爱里也要努力，一切为了主而做。
在主的爱里常常喜乐。
谢谢。”


--内容已被修改，因为真正说时有很多“嗯。。。恩。。。啊。。。”--


感谢主。 我做到了。
求主你继续带领我在大学生活也能喜乐，心灵永远跟随主。



愿一切荣耀归于主。
阿门。

PS: G，谢谢你那晚愿意陪我讲半小时的电话，还听我哭酱久，真的很高兴又你这朋友。希望“那件事”永远成为我们之间的秘密，不要和别人说哦，我相信你。真的很谢谢你啦！！回去请你吃，最好把时间都空出来！ 不要放我鸽子勒。。。



-蘑菇-

Matriculation on 8/5/2010

Thanks God, I get Matriculation in Negeri Sembilan.
Had a view on the facilities there, mum said not going to get me a laptop, cos got computer in the cyber cafe...haiz...well, my description for the overall, a bit...outdated, just like our SK green road, the blocks are still in the old-style design....
Well, for those who get Labuan, CONGRATULATIONS!!
It's so new, the blocks are like condominium to be exact!!
Tall buildings, good facilities...
Hmm, however, on behalf of all tat, as long as i have a place to shelter in, I'm so glad bout it....
Really thanks God for everything...
Tomorrow, as i've promised God, I'm gonna have a sharing session during youth to glorify His name...I've prepared the speech since 4 days ago...Hope i will do good...
Hmm...
Really love my family and friends...
Hope i can survive well in college...
Sis just called...
Keep reminding me, "My friend told me it's gonna b very stress in college, especially urs is only a 1year programme, means, u have to work really hard and in order to enter medicine, like wad u dreamt of, u have to get pointer 4.0 to be a doctor..."

Digesting these words into my mind, i will work really really hard for it...
Thanks God!!!=)
Really love U sooo much!!
University Malaya would be my target....

8/5 will b flying off already....
Wooo~
Nervous and worried more than happiness and joy....
Friends, i'm gonna b back to kuching on 27 i hope, after passing my driving lesson of course, and i will take 2 days to prepare all the stuff needed, then the rest of the time, DATE ME!!!!
Please, really feel the urge to meet all of u...
Please date me out, no matter i'm available o not, i will plead my dad to let me out....
So, i wanna enjoy the rest of the time...thanks...=P

Start to miss all of u now, especially mum....

PRAISE GOD FOR EVERYTHING!!



-Mogu-

1st driving lesson, I...

...feel so nervous and upset!!
At first, i'm just calm, and had tis overconfidence tat "Everyone can pass, y not i? sure i can..."
Then, things go the opposite way...Hmm...
Almost crashed into the drain...shh...just ALMOST....
Practically, my sifu so nervous and helped me turn my steering so i'm not really tat INDEPENDENT in my 1st driving lesson, all guided and helped~
Hope the next lesson would b good, after all, i have only 2 more weeks to learn before my test....
Hmm...back in kuching, i missed my friends....and...and...guess wad? Ah sa called to ask me for...erm...dinner? but i rejected jor, really, extremely sad bout it....My first date wif her, but i'm in sri aman now, how to fly back?
Hah~
Anyway, 2mr 8sis went for movie, and, again, no JOCELYNN in the gathering...
Dunno how much time left for us to be together...
Somehow, i got over the feelings of depressed over "relationship" thing...
Cos, I've lots of things to worried, not to say my studies(which i've worried since i started my interview), my family, my friends, my driving exam, and much much more...

Oh well, really dun wan end my post like tis, but....ha~ i feel excited for tomoro driving lesson again!!!=)

Sifu nag a lot...
I am totally blank inside the car, wad sifu said, i cant digest, i cant look at the mirror, but only stare in front....wad happen to me? can do 2 things in once?
hmm.....wanna practice everyday so tat i wont forget quickly, wanna get the cool feelings of driving....

Tata guys~^.^

Blog in english recently(bad english vocab and grammar as u all can see here), but, huh....i dunno how to use the chinese translator thing in my cousin's computer...

Oh ya!! see? the lo-so-mogu...
Uncle and aunt went to thailand, so now, house only left 3 kids(me and 2 cousins) and my foster mum....woohoo? nah~ not fun at all....just normal, read books and sleep, and blog, and chat....
FB notifications get lesser when u keep clicking it hour by hour..... Blogger seems not in the mood to update that often as i'm daily checking the newest blog post...
HELLO PEOPLE~ keep me updated!!



-Mogu-

Jpa interview--my experience

Well, hav a good sleep right after my interview...Had gone through sleepless night the day before this big day...
Hmm... I know ppl will be spamming my msn wif questions like "how's it?" "wad question they ask?" "wad current issues?"

Well, people, tell u wad...
I'm lucky to be in the same group wif my friends, 2 from green road, and 1 top student from college abdillah....
Well, even luckier when we got panel 2, which all the candidates agreed that they're damn friendly and nice to us...

We went in, and they clarified that both bm and english can b used, anytime, cos they wan to listen to us in both languages...so there we go...
Introduction in BM which is easier as compared to the other question...
then, followed by
"Which course do u choose?"
"Why?"

"Which country would u like to go?"
"Why?"

"Many scholars, after going to overseas, they get much attracted, will u most likely come back to Malaysia after ur studies?"

for medicine,"How do u find bout the program pendedahan kerjaya kedoktoran?" (this is asked as erm...introduction for all future doctors out there...a must...so prepared well for it...)

topic of discussion: cancer in males.....wad's ur role in solving it?

it's very nice....very funny, we laughed all through the interview...

Just had good time inside...and oh ya!! Heng Chuan and Adillah have good performance....
The top student...O.o, well, not to say much, is a great one too...i personally think that i did okay...All depend on God now...
No point to worry now right?
Just relax...
Mingle wif other candidates do help...
Hey, remember to bring ur jacket...If u're like me, wait from 8 till 12pm for my turn, i'm freezing inside...
So, just in case u're not tat early, jacket is compulsory...
or else the interviewer will b hearing ur shacking voice....
Show them tat u're confident, but not too boastful..
Good!
Many dentistry applicants...
Now, it's waiting time again...
=)
Good luck, people!!


-Mogu-

蘑菇的一生，认识了很多朋友。
很荣幸的说，他们都是对蘑菇好的人。。。
曾经以为对自己有企图，利用自己的人，最后都会拿出真心，和我做朋友，而不是为了接近一个被贴上标签[功课好] 的蘑菇。。。
我真的很喜欢中学的朋友，就像5science1和4science1...
我喜欢他们的真，不做作，不奉承，不巴结，不刻意讨好，不随便毁谤，不自私自利。。。可能有些人觉得他们会，但是，在我心中，那时很好的一班。。。是我多年后，都想回去就读的一班。。。
在班上，我深刻体会到什么是上课的欢乐，什么是无聊的玩笑但最终都可笑得很夸张，也认识了，什么是种族的团结。。。1malaysia, 真该找我们班去做代言。

班上的趣事，我只记得几件，但是人物，却不会忘记。。。。多年，记忆衰弱的我可能会忘了名字，但是请不要生气，报上自己的大名，你们还是我不可或缺的朋友。。。

班上的人很特别。。。我常和妈妈说：“咪，我班的人都不是书虫勒。。。他们上课都很疯的。。。但是考试时又很认真，大概只有那时才像是老师期望中的5science1，不过考过后，又是一群疯猴子。。。酱菜是学生嘛。。。”

而我妈也只能笑笑，无言。。。

真的爱上这班人的特色。不像别班，不可以指那一班，我们班上没有互相讨厌的情形。可能有小不开心，可是绝对没有吵架的事。。。对吧？我是都不记得有谁和谁吵架的啦。。。大家都很开心的。。。。玩在一起。。。而我呢，最喜欢像应酬公关一样，一个桌子接着一个桌子搭讪，八卦八卦。。。几kepo 以下的。。。

考spm 时， 我无聊的想起我班的人。。。很怕有一天，我会忘记他们，就好像我会不小心忘记我小学朋友的名字一样。。。所以我画了一下两幅图画。。。想念你们时就看一下。。。。

第一副图画好像忘了画全部人诶。。。不过我会补画的。。。

5science1没有同侪压力。。。不需要害怕得罪谁，我都很爱他们每一个人。。。

希望，在他们心目中，我也会是一个很好的朋友。。。

To my non-chinese friends: Sorry ya....just feel like writing this post in chinese....hope u guys dun mind....afterall, wanna noe wad i wrote? the conclusion of the article: I LOVE U GUYS!!!=)

PS* i dun need friends to show me how much hatred they have towards the world, i wan someone to let me know how much love the world has....

But if a friend of mine happened to hate this world, feel like giving up, i will be the one to help u and willing to let me have hope once more...

-Mogu-

sickness which wont cure

This morning went to the hospital...
Had my regular skin checkup...( my skin is kinda allergic and as my close friends know, i got sweaty hands)
so, yea...I had some kind of treatment last year for few months to inhibit the sweat pores of my skin from secreting too much waste substances through sweating... It's a machine which led electricity to pass through the water and my hands are immersed in water...hmm, feel a bit numb at first but got used to it then...
However, before my spm examination last year, my hands got allergic to the treatment, so i stopped...

This year, i went to the hospital once for checkup on january...
The specialist, Dr.P told me that my hands might allergy to detergent....(washing detergent)
There're red spots all over my fingers, itchy...
So, there it goes...no housework for me, no need to wash dishes after meal (the only hose chores that i do best)...
But, badly, i went back to sri aman for almost 1 month on and off, so stayed there for quite long...
I didnt bring my medicine over.... I did cleaning, and my hands are itchy again...
So, this morning, went to see Dr.P again...
Frankly speaking, i'm afraid that Dr.P might scold me when he found out...
Well, i can sense that there's little "Ah...see? told u..." expression when he saw my fingers...and the spots that now appeared on my leg too...
Hmm...Feel bad...
(but lived in aunt house, not nice to just eat and go away without helping right?)
Anyway....
He told me that PATCH TEST must be done soon...
Till now, there's no way for him to prevent the sickness besides finding out the things or ingredients that make me allergy...
So, basically, the test would be carried out like this:
Different type of materials or cream wif different ingredients will be spread on my back, patch by patch...
Then, for 3 days, water cant get into contact wif my back.(means no bathing? yes!!---tat will b itchy worse..wakakaXD)
Serious...
Then, after 3 days, they'll observe which part of my back hav red spots and tat's what i'm allergic to...hmm...brilliant idea? well, it just means if i'm really allergy to certain things that's put on my back, after 3 days, i will have itchy back then!!
But it's all for my own good...
Then, he wrote the slip and i thought it would end there, i can go home...
Then mum and Dr.P talked bout my "great" dream to go for dentistry through jpa...
And Dr.P's reaction is---------*shook head+stare*
"U sure?"

"y?"

"well, between ur hands and ur dream, u can choose 1"

"...."dun understand....

"u noe ur allergy problem is a lifelong prob, it wont cure....being a dentist, whenever u're in contact wif ur patients, u have to wash ur hands using antiseptic detergent and wear gloves...not to say many are found that when they wore gloves for long period, they'll have allergy reaction towards gloves too...but u're allergy to detergents, so does that mean u wan to have itchy hands for ur whole life?"

*deep thinking* and i asked, "The worst will just be red spots and itchiness right?"

"Nope, this is the most minor symptoms.... If u get in contact wif detergent too often, or perhaps like u, daily, ur skin might crack and might bleed...." (which means there might b lil pores within fingers that bleed, mayb cos too dry, mayb allergy, mayb itchy and i scratch it, etc...)

*silent again*(saw some pores on my fingers do have the symptom of bleeding cos i scratched)

"So, what do u tink? u can continue and deal wif the problems in the future, but it would b a non-cure sickness..."

*smile*

"I've chosen my way, and i will go for it...Thank you, doctor...I've been through it for few years, i think i am prepared for the worst....Afterall, nothing should inhibit me from fulfilling my own dream..." replying in a shacking voice.... i noe i hesitate for a moment...

Way back home, i told papa bout it... The only question is just "Wad do u think?"
Mum asked the same thing too....

I've thought hard...
I noe my decision...I'm stubborn perhaps...
Still, mayb i've not gone through the "worst" which doctor worried bout, but i noe, if i dun continue my dream, i would regret over it...
This problem only make my will to become a dentist stronger...
I'm sure that dentist would be my path and somehow, i noe which step and where to go...
But perhaps, if i dun get jpa scholarships, i might tolerate to be ordinary doctor or pharmacist...
Yet now..... I'm sure that medical line will be my path....Antiseptic detergent will be my soulmate in the future... And allergy would be nothing after that...just go through it...
As long as I can glorify His name, everything is worth it!!
Khai would pray for me, i would pray too...
I've done much, God, please lead me...
I'm not afraid...U're my strength~


-Mogu-

美丽的爱

美丽的爱,定义到底在哪?
很常, 会有些朋友问我 : "丽洁, 爱情是什么? "
这答案, 至今我仍找不到确切的答案.
因为虚拟, 所以, 当爱情来了, 有些人会保持着害怕和不确定感....
今天看了一个节目, 若自己面对一段感情仍是保持怀疑, 那么, 不妨想想这3审.
其实, 爱情有3审:

1审--- 激情.
>>当你面对这人时, 你对他/她还有激情吗?
亦或是剩下责任感而已?
有些情侣认为: "我们在一起几年了, 不可以现在分手, 他/她为我付出这么多... "
想法虽伟大, 但, 其实, 你只是在拖累另一半..
你对他/她只有责任, 没有感情.
俗称: " 为了在一起而一起. "
这样的感情是没有意义的...
倒不如早点让各自自由...
因为, 坚持下去, 或许才真的会耽误到对方的下一站幸福啊...

2审--- 亲密感.
>>这并不代表肢体接触, 而是互相的依赖.
眼前的那位, 是不是能让你掏心说出内心深处感觉的人?
若连这种感觉都没有, 那么, 何不找个你们在一起都能很自在, 畅所欲言的人, 不是更好嘛~

3审--- 安全感.
>> 当然, 这或许对男/女友的性格有很大的关系..
若他/她的性格并不是像你能接受的, 那么, 就别开始.
因为, 往往, 所谓的爱, 会慢慢被外在的感觉摧毁, 时间久了, 或许那分强烈的好感就会消失...
很多人会提到远距离是不是就代表没安全感?
其实, 并不然.
只是, 我的建议是, 当一段感情还在开端时, 彼此没有很深的信任与互动, 回忆少, 自然, 就会开始产生很多猜疑.
而没安全感其实就是来自还没很深的爱所发生的猜疑...
所以, 一般上, 远距离恋情对热恋期的情侣产生很大的挑战...


当你觉得你在一个人身上可以找到2/3, 那么, 你们应该可以走的长远...

友人又可能会问: " 我好像找到了, 但那是不是我的最终真爱呢?我怎么知道? "

某某可能会说:你爱他/她,你们相处的好就好了,干嘛非得执着与找到真爱呢?

对于这见解, 我赞成一半....

"美丽的爱有两个部分.
第一个是我们常在追求的真爱...
那第二部分是在于我们怎么去经营...
爱不是说我一直要找到最适合, 真命天子/女, 而是在于态度...
怎么样把我们看似不够完美的把它变成真爱...
若不经营,真爱也是会变成胡乱的爱..."


有人说
人, 其实是球体变出来的.
那么因为压力的问题, 让我们的一部分被分裂掉...
而寻回这一部分就好像一颗球在寻找它的缺角一样...
每个人的缺角或许是三角形, 四方型, 还有不同的形状, 但记住, 寻找的过程有时不一定会找到最后的那个角.
而是谁, 在你一路寻找时, 帮你把缺掉的角给磨合了...
不要一昧的追求那个"完美"的缺角, 因为当你走到终点, 你的形体已经变回圆的, 那么你需要的也是一个一路和你一样磨练的球体....

完美不会存在...
它只存在人的脑海里, 而经过比较, 现实中的就会变得不完美了...

只有把不完美填补, 才会找到完美, 因为我们自己也不是完美的...

美丽的爱, 除了感觉, 也要经营.


-蘑菇-